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604-442-8811

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© 2019 by Eric Bowers.

Counselling

I offer counselling sessions by Skype or other video platforms. I also offer in-person sessions as well as therapeutic plant medicine sessions in Vancouver. Clients must provide their own plant medicine for these sessions.

 

For counselling sessions, I bring together somatic-based processes, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), attachment theory, and interpersonal neurobiology to help you get to the root of your challenges. For plant medicine sessions, I use somatic-based processes as well as the guitar, drum, and didgeridoo.

Scroll down to read more about my approach to healing. 

Contact me at eric@roadtocompassion.com or at 604-442-8811 if you have any questions. I offer one free 15-minute phone consultation.

“100% beyond my expectations. Ceremony with Eric has been one of the most educational and intimate experiences of my life. He carefully and skillfully walked with me to my edge and just beyond so I could grow in a way I had always imagined that I could. Eric engenders a kind of trust that is rare. A trust that is required for me to go to the places inside that I have avoided. I feel more integrated, focused, balanced and whole. My energy and attitude are elevated, even on the tough days. There is more of me to live my life with.  I fully recommend working with Eric and I will definitely go back again.”

~ Rob

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"Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls." 

~ Kahlil Gibran

My Approach to Counselling and Healing

In order to heal and integrate the deeper wounds we carry from the past, we need to get below the conscious mind and into the deeper regions of the brain. We can’t talk our way into healing our deeper wounds because the emotions and sensations and beliefs related to those wounds are not stored in the parts of the brain that do a conscious analysis of our past.

 

By slowing down specific movements and impulses related to past wounds and mindfully feeling what arises, we can access the implicit emotions, sensations and beliefs stuck in the unconscious mind. By staying connected to resources in our bodies and minds, we can integrate our wounds and stop reacting to the present based on our adaptations to past trauma. This is why I use somatic (body-based) processes for my work with clients. 

Research done on the healing effects of plant medicine has shown that it quiets or limits the default mode network (DMN) of the brain. One of the functions of the DMN seems to be keeping the gates closed on the unconscious mind. Both plant medicine and somatic processing therapies help quiet the DMN so that trauma stored in the unconscious can be accessed and integrated. See this 60 Minutes episode for more on the research.

Clients who work with me have the option to work with or without plant medicine.

Working through difficult relationship dynamics often takes us to the edge of our capacity to feel. What I’ve found in helping people feel difficult things is that autonomy is crucial to the healing process. When someone is supported to be in full choice about what’s happening, they are more willing to explore their edges because they know they are in charge of their process. When I help clients through difficult issues, I don’t pressure them to do anything that doesn’t feel right for them. Instead, I offer possibilities and support my clients to choose what feels right for them.

One of my main goals with my sessions is to help clients become more attuned to their bodies and stay present with their emotions, to feel their emotions without being overwhelmed by them. We simply cannot have successful relationships – relationships that deepen into greater intimacy and freedom – without improving our capacity to attune to our bodies and feel our emotions. I’m not referring only to emotions such as anger, grief, and fear; I’m also referring to emotions such as joy, excitement, and gratitude. We have a limit for feeling enjoyable emotions just as we do for difficult emotions. 

 

The field of interpersonal neurobiology (IPNB) has shown us that our current capacity to feel any emotion is directly related to our primary caregiver's ability to help us feel our emotions during childhood. Neuroscience also shows us that with mindfulness, practice, and support, we can improve our capacity to feel all our emotions.

I help clients in several other ways as well:

  • improving communication skills;

  • learning structures for working through conflict;

  • understanding relationship challenges through the lenses of attachment theory, interpersonal neurobiology, and Nonviolent Communication;

  • implementing practices and strategies for improving relationships.

However, all relationship tools and skills are more effective when underpinned by an increased capacity to feel and attune to the body.

Let’s fly in the face of perfection
That is not a race we can win 

Once we give up the finish line

We can make love with losing 

A masterpiece in the unmaking  

A work of art that never ends  

A swansong of new beginnings  

Where the unprepared mind

Meets the edge of existence

~ Eric Bowers

Read the full poem here.