Counselling

In my counselling sessions, I draw from my training in Somatic Therapy, Parts Work, and Hakomi. The principles and practices of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), attachment theory, and interpersonal neurobiology also inform my approach to counselling.

My goal is to help you work through the root causes of your challenges so that you can experience real shifts in yourself and create the life you want.

Scroll down to read more about my approach to counselling. 

Sessions take place over Zoom.

If you'd like to set up an intake session, send me a message through the contact form below.

"Working with you has been so deeply healing for me. I am beyond grateful for the loving, compassionate, and wise space you hold. You have helped me to deepen my love for myself and to start the journey of being a loving parent to all of my inner parts." ~ Heath

My Approach to Counselling 

In order to heal and integrate the deeper wounds we carry from the past, we need to get below the conscious mind and into the deeper regions of the brain. We can’t talk our way into healing our deeper wounds because the emotions and sensations and beliefs related to those wounds are not stored in the parts of the brain that do a conscious analysis of our past.

 

By slowing down specific movements and impulses related to past wounds and mindfully feeling what arises, we can access the implicit emotions, sensations and beliefs stuck in the unconscious mind. By staying connected to resources in our bodies and minds, we can integrate our wounds and stop reacting to the present based on our adaptations to past trauma. This is why I use somatic (body-based) processes for my work with clients. 

Working through difficult relationship dynamics often takes us to the edge of our capacity to feel. What I’ve found in helping people feel difficult things is that autonomy is crucial to the healing process. When someone is supported to be in full choice about what’s happening, they are more willing to explore their edges because they know they are in charge of their process. When I help clients through difficult issues, I don’t pressure them to do anything that doesn’t feel right for them. Instead, I offer possibilities and support my clients to choose what feels right for them.

One of my main goals with my sessions is to help clients become more attuned to their bodies and stay present with their emotions, to feel their emotions without being overwhelmed by them. We simply cannot have successful relationships – relationships that deepen into greater intimacy and freedom – without improving our capacity to attune to our bodies and feel our emotions. I’m not referring only to emotions such as anger, grief, and fear; I’m also referring to emotions such as joy, excitement, and gratitude. We have a limit for feeling enjoyable emotions just as we do for difficult emotions. 

 

The field of interpersonal neurobiology (IPNB) has shown us that our current capacity to feel any emotion is directly related to our primary caregiver's ability to help us feel our emotions during childhood. Neuroscience also shows us that with mindfulness, practice, and support, we can improve our capacity to feel all our emotions.

I help clients in several other ways as well:

  • improving communication skills;

  • learning structures for working through conflict;

  • understanding relationship challenges through the lenses of attachment theory, interpersonal neurobiology, and Nonviolent Communication;

  • implementing practices and strategies for improving relationships.

All relationship tools and skills are more effective when underpinned by an increased capacity to feel and attune to the body.

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"My whole life

I have tried to fly,

not realizing that our arms

are our wings, and we glide

by reaching out, and land

by reaching in."

~ Mark Nepo

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Let’s fly in the face of perfection
That is not a race we can win 

Once we give up the finish line

We can make love with losing 

A masterpeace in the unmaking  

A work of art that never ends  

A swansong of new beginnings  

Where the unprepared mind

Meets the edge of existence

~ Eric Bowers

Read the full poem here.